23 Aug Hansaji on ‘Ahar Vihar Achar Vichar’
The topic for the Hindi Satsang on Sunday, 18th August, 2013 was ‘Ahar Vihar Achar Vichar.‘
Following is the transcript of the speech made by Smt. Hansaji Yogendra on the topic.
Listen to the Audio:
Therefore, Achar, my behaviour/conduct with others should be loving, caring and cordial at all times. More important is Vichar, my way of thinking – we can be negative, or positive or neutral, in that order. We should convert our negative thoughts into positive and if we are unable to be positive then we should try to be neutral, but never to allow anything to disturb us. Let’s make an effort to absorb this method deep into our daily lives.Today we have learnt of the four pillars –
1. Ahar – what we eat, how much we eat and how we eat,
2. Vihar – our rest / recreation time, our routines including Niyamas,
3. Achar – our conduct with the external world – which is in fact is the first step of the 8-fold path i.e.Yamas – Ahimsa (non-violence), Satya (Truth), Asteya (non-stealing), Brahmacharya (moderation in seeking pleasures), Aparigraha (non-stealing) and
4. Vichar – our goals in life, our school of thought.
We have to take care of all the four pillars equally to be able to lead a healthy and happy life. If even one of them is ignored then we shall bear pain, disease and suffering to some intensity. This thought has been reiterated not only in the Yoga Sutras but in Ayurveda and the Bhagwad Gita as well.
There are a variety of new researches happening and I recently read that 4 cups of coffee a day can reduce one’s life span by half. We had a French visitor once who was a coffee addict and mentally very disturbed as well. The point is that we have to live holistically, maintaining a balance of all the four pillars as shared above. If we give more importance to any one of them or just one of them, then it will lead to an imbalance which will be very painful to us. We should always understand and keep in mind the purpose behind doing any action. If we forget the purpose then the action will create problems.
I’d like to illustrate with an example. Two brothers with their families lived together. The elder wife was an academic and literary personality and the younger wife was a homemaker. Over a period of time, the younger lady felt wronged since the elder lady wouldn’t contribute to the housework. This created ill health for the younger lady and she happened to visit The Yoga Institute. We suggested she speak to the elder lady and request her to contribute too. The elder lady happily agreed and they divided the work amongst themselves. Each would become responsible for the home on alternate days. In due course, the elder lady would work as per her ways which the younger lady didn’t approve of. The problem instead of getting resolved created even more tension and ill-health for the younger one. The point is that we should accept others as they are, if we want things to be a certain way then we should do it ourselves instead of expecting others to work as per our methods. I explained to the younger lady that if she is happy with a clean and organized home then she has to do it herself and hard work never harms in any way. Either be relaxed / happy with the way things are, or do it yourself. Gradually, she understood the four pillars and reduced her need for perfectionism slowly.
Your subordinates will not work the way you do, therefore do not make efforts to change others, the efforts should be directed towards accepting others as they are and being happy with them, the efforts should be directed towards improving oneself only. I will receive only what I give. We have to maintain a level head in our conduct with others at all times, else we will be unhappy. Let’s try to be a little selfless and avoid being materialistic and self-centered with our needs. Let’s work towards sharing happiness and joy in the society we live in. Let’s work towards achieving a balance of all the four pillars in our lives.”