24 Feb Q&A on ‘Inter-personal Relations’ at the Satsang (24th Feb 2013)
The topic for the English Satsang on Sunday, 24th February, 2013 was ‘Inter-personal Relations.’
Following is the transcript of the Q & A between the audience and Dr. Jayadeva Yogendra and Smt. Hansaji Yogendra.
Dr. J: Not to fall ill would help. We make mistakes and as a result we get into these kinds of conditions. Being a little more careful of the action that we are doing would definitely contribute.
Smt. H: If you fall ill, how much will others stay with you? Here comes the role of television. TV is for whom? For sick people who have to keep lying down and can’t move around, not for others. But ideally, see to it that you don’t fall sick.
Dr. J: You have to have ear plugs. So put the plugs in as soon as you see him.
Smt H: Someone wants to disturb you, but why do you want to disturb yourself? That’s the main teaching. Somebody’s doing his job, you do your job. Don’t get disturbed. If a person tends to get disturbed a lot, he will find many people who will disturb him. Don’t blame people, blame yourself. Others will give their opinions but you remain unaffected. Enjoy that.
Q. Ahimsa is okay till the abuse from the other person is verbal. What if the other person gets violent and is threatening your very existence?
Dr. J: Call the police.
Smt H: We always believe in preventing problems. If you find the opposite person is getting angry, leave the place, say ‘I want to go to the toilet. It is an emergency, Nature calls.’ Leave the place rather than increase the temper and creating a problem. Physical violence can’t be taken, you should have that much strength to hold his hand strongly if he beats you. That has to be done. That is not Himsa. That is for self-protection, which you have to do.
Q. Nowadays, most of the interpersonal relations get disturbed because of mistrust and suspicion. Advice how to handle this situation?
Dr. J: See, I personally don’t try to make too much of inter-personal relations in friends. Keep a little distance and you will be saved.
Smt. H: They say that in the whole life, if you have one or two good friends, it is a great thing. These (others) are just acquaintances. You know someone is good at something, you just meet, talk and go away. But real friendship is hard to find. But, as we gave the formula, just try and wish good of somebody, talk good of somebody. But distrust – trust has to be God only, not with humans. With humans you should be always vigilant. That is very clear. You never know when someone changes. Yesterday I was reading something written by Chanakya. He says that with your enemies and negative people you don’t talk much and share much, but understand that with your friends also you should not talk much and share much because when friends will become enemies, you don’t know and then all your policies and all that would be public. So understand, this was a very strong statement. Chanakya knew what human people are. That’s why in British, they say that when they meet, they talk of the weather, politics, but nothing personal. And that is a wise thing to do.
Satsang is an open meeting held every Sunday from 9:30 to 10:30 am at The Yoga Institute, Santacruz East, Mumbai. It involves an interesting presentation to the public, made by the students of the Teacher Training Course. Each week, a new presentation of a Yogic concept is made in a simple way through skits and decoration for the general public, followed by a short speech from our Gurus, Dr. Jayadeva and Smt. Hansaji Yogendra.