19 Dec Q&A on ‘Positivity’
The topic for the Hindi Satsang on Sunday, 15th December, 2013 was ‘Positivity.’
Following is the transcript of the Q & A between the audience and Smt. Hansaji J. Yogendra.
Listen to the audio:
Q. Positive thinking attracts positive happenings. How does this happen?
Dr. J: We are showing a pleasant and happy, cheerful face, naturally the response will be good. If we are appearing unhappy, disturbed, then the response will be bad. So to a good extent, our own expressions will lead to the reactions.
Smt. H: You create your own world. If you think good things, good will happen, if you think bad things, bad things will happen. If you worry, worrisome situations will increase. So clearly, we should make our own world right. Live will faith.
Q. Are Gunas synonymous with electrons, protons and neutrons?
Dr. J: Unfortunately, I have not done any study in this area. Ask a scientist.
Smt. H: This is scientific terminology. Electrons, protons and neutrons, all these things are available in one. If we are in a positive, Sattvic state, then one thing becomes superior, in Rajasic state, another becomes superior and the same in Tamasic. So if a scientist anywhere may have studied it this way, he might be able to explain it in this way. The way we have fluctuations in our personality, the same way there will be fluctuations in the Gunas.
Q. If a family member like a sister-in-law doesn’t like me, then should my husband and I stop meeting her?
Dr. J: No, don’t stop meeting them. Remain smiling.
Smt. H: If someone doesn’t like you, it is their problem, not yours. If you can find what about you they don’t like, you can try and change it. If, for maintaining peace in the house, you need to speak or behave in a certain way, then do so. Self-improvement must be your aim, but only if you know what their problem is. Ask them what they don’t like about you. But if it’s just your presence that they don’t like, then you cannot do anything. If they don’t speak well of you, at least you can speak well of them.
Q. Is divorce an option?
Dr. J: I think there are a lot of divorces that are taking place and it doesn’t seem to help. The number of divorces has not helped. They are increasing.
Smt. H: It’s better that you don’t take it as an option. It’s better that you try to live with each other happily. And in case if a situation is there which is not a human situation, i.e. it’s an inhuman situation, then of course you can go away. But if someone came to me saying that she doesn’t love her husband anymore and wants to take a divorce, I would say no, first you learn to love your husband and after that if you still want a divorce, then think. But first try to rise above any situation. That is the spiritual path.
Q. How to deal with a person who has no health problems but continuously thinks he is sick and does not accept any changes for his betterment?
Dr. J: Send a very big bill to him, a doctor’s bill. That would stop him from talking about his problems.
Smt. H: Firstly you should not get irritated with the person. This is his way of thinking. Don’t try to change him. This is his state where he cannot see good in anything. You cannot change his personality. He will himself will learn from his own problems. If he comes to places like the Institute, maybe he might change.
Satsang is an open meeting held every Sunday from 9:30 to 10:30 am at The Yoga Institute, Santacruz East, Mumbai. It involves an interesting presentation to the public, made by the students of the Teacher Training Course. Each week, a new presentation of a Yogic concept is made in a simple way through skits and decoration for the general public, followed by a short speech from our Gurus, Dr. Jayadeva and Smt. Hansaji Yogendra.