26 Aug Q&A on ‘Change Yourself’
The topic for the English Satsang on Sunday, 25th August, 2013 was ‘Change Yourself’
Following is the transcript of the Q & A between the audience and Dr. Jayadeva Yogendra and Smt. Hansaji Yogendra.
Listen to the audio:
Q. How to deal with nagging wife?
Dr. J: Well, if it has come before you, accept it. If she is a person who nags, accept it.
Smt. H: When the wife is nagging and telling you to do something, do it. Because you are not doing it, she has to tell you again and again. Then you call her a nagging wife. Why can’t you listen and do it? Secondly, try and praise your wife and say something good about her. If she will be happy with you, she would leave you be and not nag.
Q. My husband says ‘You are always wrong.’ What to do?
Smt. H: You should say, ‘Yes I’m wrong. How right you are, how wise you are.’ It hardly matters what is right or wrong as long as some action is going on. If the person is saying you are wrong, you should see good, if he sees bad, you should see good and bring some balance.
Q. A 22 year old bright boy has been diagnosed with intestinal paralysis by all Allopaths. What is this? How can he be helped with yoga?
Dr. J: These are technical troubles and one has to accept the doctor and follow.
Smt. H: Paralysis is something which can be reverted, it can’t remain the same. Rest of the portions of the body which are not paralyzed should be used properly and strengthened. So a person should take charge of himself and make changes in four areas- Ahar, Vihar, Achar, Vichar and start living life with zest and enthusiasm and things would definitely improve.
Q. ‘Change is a universal truth. So accept.’ Comment.
Smt. H: Exactly. It is something we have to accept. Change is constant in the material world. Any material thing will not remain the same. Even when you bring a new pot at home, it will grow old and ultimately crack. Nothing remains the same.
Q. How do we stop the habit of smoking?
Dr. J: Well, you should not talk about it. Let others talk.
Smt. H: Listen to those who have left smoking. You don’t do anything to a person who is smoking. There are two types of personalities. 1. Who are intelligent, thinking type. They would look at the world and find out what causes suffering and they would not do it. They would learn from others’ mistakes. 2. And there are those personalities who are Tamasic, not intelligent. They would do mistakes themselves and not learn till they really suffer. So we leave the person be. If he wants to change, he can change. We have had so many people at the Institute who were chain smokers but they went off the habit and they are much healthier, much better human beings. Their family situations have also improved. So if I decide to change, I can change, nobody can stop me. So till then, we have to wait.
Q. We help someone, but they do not respect us. What to do in such a case?
Dr. J: If you are an understanding person and you feel that you should help someone, then help. Whether the other person will respect you or not is not your concern and should not be the motive for your actions.
Smt. H: You are helping others because you feel it is required. You are not doing any great thing for others. You are doing it for yourself. So naturally, if you are doing something for yourself by helping others, you are getting joy. You start respecting him, he will respect you.
Satsang is an open meeting held every Sunday from 9:30 to 10:30 am at The Yoga Institute, Santacruz East, Mumbai. It involves an interesting presentation to the public, made by the students of the Teacher Training Course. Each week, a new presentation of a Yogic concept is made in a simple way through skits and decoration for the general public, followed by a short speech from our Gurus, Dr. Jayadeva and Smt. Hansaji Yogendra.