How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Energy

At times, our energy gets sapped while interacting with certain individuals or by being part of certain situations. This can be very exhausting. Why does this sudden drop in energy happen? Can we safeguard our energy? Yes, we can safeguard it. 

It is important to understand that we are responsible for ourselves; our thoughts, our feelings, and also, our boundaries. They may be different from others and that is completely ok as we are all different individuals. Let us normalize and prioritize ourselves. Our boundaries are as important as anyone else’s. 

Let us begin by recognizing our boundaries. Sometimes our boundaries do not align with the boundaries of others, for example, when acquaintances ask us extremely personal questions, that may make us uncomfortable. To understand this, we must become aware of our behavioral patterns, without self-judgement, which may arise when our expectations are not aligned with societal expectations. Many times, despite disliking the company that we are in, we are obliged to continue to stay due to peer pressure or fear of being rude. Acceptance is the first step towards seeking a solution. Accepting the boundaries of ourselves and others, we can find effective resolution for these concerns. 

What should we do when our boundaries are being exploited?

What would be the correct way to respond to such a situation? Pause, and reflect. Is our behavior leading to this overstepping of boundaries? Communicate the discomfort with kindness. Learn to say ‘No’ with compassion and not rudeness. This may not be easy due to some of our attachments, so to set boundaries and find peace, we must let go of these attachments. As per yoga, it is our duty towards ourselves (SvaDharma) to set these boundaries for ourselves and others.

Through asanas, we can understand ourselves and our boundaries. The asanas work as energy booster yoga solutions to setting our boundaries. The meditative postures such as Yogendra Sukhasana, Yogendra Padmasan, Yogendra Vajrasana, and Yogendra Sthithaprarthanasana, etc help us understand our body and observe our thoughts. They help us attain a state of balance through our bodies, and into our thoughts. Asanas such as Yogendra Talasana, Yogendra Utkatasana, Yogendra Konasana, Yogendra Ekpadasana, etc help us observe our mind as these postures require immense mental strength and firmness, that we may require to set boundaries and find peace. The asanas that help us let go of our attachments include the forward bending asanas such as Yogendra Paschimmottanasana, Yogendra Yoga Mudra, Yogendra Chakrasana, etc require us to surrender ourselves to the nature of gravity and let go of the unfounded beliefs that stop us from accepting our boundaries. The backward bending asanas such as Yogendra Bhujangasana, Yogendra Dhanurvakrasana, Yogendra Salabhasana, Yogendra Ustrasana, etc. bring us compassion and clarity of thoughts, devoid of any clutter or arrogance. 

Other than these, there is an amazing energy booster Yoga Pranayama that helps us set our boundaries and protect our energy. That is, Yogendra Pranayama - Anulom Vilom, this Pranayama regulates the natural way of breathing which brings balance between positive and negative effects of breathing on both the body and mind, this brings about quietude and inner harmony and helps us recognize and accept our boundaries and stand our ground for them. Let us understand how it is to be done. 

Recommended practice:

Practice 5 rounds/ day daily, starting with a count of 2:4:2:2 seconds. Gradually increase it by 1 sec/ week to a maximum ratio of 8:16:8:8 – 8 secs inhalation and exhalation, 16 secs retention, and 8 secs suspension. 

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Benefits:

Yogic techniques such as Pratipaksha Bhavana can also assist us in protecting our energy and maintaining a balanced state of mind, promoting healthy and positive thoughts is essential.

Pratipaksha Bhavana (opposite emotions) is a technique introduced to us by the founder of The Yoga Institute, Shri Yogendraji. This technique helps us cultivate positive thoughts as soon as negative thoughts pop into our minds. This practice can help uplift our energy and thus is a good habit to cultivate so that one can be in a positive frame of mind at all times. By transmuting negative thoughts into positive ones, one not only protects one’s energy but also gets into the habit of not thinking negatively.

Another meditative technique suggested by yoga is Mauna (silence). It is a sacred practice of maintaining silence intentionally. This practice of limiting our speech helps us conserve our energy, regulates our emotions, and promotes clarity and peace, as the majority of our energy is drained through talking. 

These yoga techniques serve as a remedy to help one create healthy boundaries, thus helping one protect one’s energy.